There is only one way to know how much a chronic illness can affect one's sex life, and it is to suffer with one. But there are suggestions that professionals often give to their patients.
Pain, fatigue, exhaustion, depression, stiffness and even erectile dysfunction are just the tip of the iceberg when we are thinking about the symptoms of chronic illnesses that can ruin your sex life. But you should know more about your disease then only its symptoms. Ask your doctor for information on medications, other therapies, and even how you can maintain your sex life. They are likely to suggest all of the following.
Experiment with positions, lubrication and even with foreplay to find out what works for both of you in bed. But you should not experiment with timing.
Even though spontaneous sex is a turn on at a young age, but as we grow older, we need to plan a little ahead. We need to know when we feel we have the most energy during the day, and we have to wait for about a half hour to let our medication reach its peak. So, in case of painkillers, your pain will be gone by the time you are supposed to have sex.
It also makes it easier to relax by then. Even though timed sex can be frustrating, remember that there is no pressure on you, and you do not have to rush. Foreplay is your friend. A woman needs more time to get naturally lubricated and a man needs more time to have an erection, as well. So do not go for a quickie. Give yourselves time to get in the mood.
It takes a shorter time if you also communicate. Do not expect your partner to know how you feel about sex. You are responsible to let him or her know what you like and what you don't.
If you pay attention to these, then your sex life will not be disturbed by a chronic illness so deeply.